Adventures in Sexuality firmly believes that all kinky/sexual interactions should be between consenting adults. Consent must be obtained prior to engaging in any kink activity. Negotiation and Consent go hand in hand to create good agreements. Both are a key part of what it is that we do. It is important to note that consent is not the absence of a “no”, but a mutual co-creation of a “yes”.
To this end, AIS focuses on education and prevention to alleviate consent issues. However, despite the many precautions that reduce the risk of issues during interpersonal interactions, there is the possibility that a situation may occur. This document will serve as a guide as to what you should expect when reporting a consent incident and our general process for investigating the incident.
AIS approaches every concern and consent incident on an individual basis. Each consent incident is unique, and therefore requires us to examine the nuance and circumstances thoroughly. The outcome of the investigation may change based on the information presented to us. We treat every report with the utmost care and strongly encourage any member or attendee to bring issues to our attention.
Please be aware that our primary goal is to continue to create and maintain safe and consensual environments for our attendees. Our actions are limited to Mediation, Re-education, Sanction, and Removal. Also note that AIS Staff and Leadership are not law enforcement and if an issue is at the level of a crime, we will assist, accompany, or advise in reporting at that level.Reporting a Consent Issue
We understand that experiencing a consent incident or issue can be a traumatic and confusing issue. It may take some time to process and understand fully what has occurred. However, we do encourage individuals to report these instances to us as soon as possible. We request this because the sooner we are aware of an issue, the quicker we can address it.
Consent related issues are handled directly by the organization's leaders (Barak and Sheba), and may also include the Consent Representative (MsDemanda).
There are a few circumstances you may find yourself in when reporting a consent issue is necessary. To make this process easier for you, we have broken it down into sections.
Reporting an Issue That Occurred at an Adventures in Sexuality Run Event & The Investigation Process
We ask that you immediately let us know of any consent related issues that occur during an Adventures in Sexuality run event. To do
this, please get the attention of any Adventures in Sexuality staff member. They will locate the organization's leaders and/or the consent
representative. You may locate any staff member in the following locations at any of our events:
Hotel Take-Over Event: We always have a clearly marked staff room for all of our hotel take over events. You may locate a staff member at any time at this staff room. Additionally, all of our event staff will be wearing a hot pink badge to identify them.
One Night Parties: We have multiple staff members present at these events, and we invite you to reach out to any of them should you need their assistance. If you are unsure who you should speak with, please visit the volunteers at the registration desk. While those working the desk are not always Adventures in Sexuality staff members, they will be able to locate the appropriate individuals for you.
Once you make contact with the AIS Staff responsible for handling consent related issues, we will speak with you in private. (Should you need a support person, feel free to bring one. However, we ask that they do not contribute to or interfere with the discussion) When reporting the consent issue, we ask that you include the following information:
We may ask additional questions. It is important to note that our reason for wanting this information or asking additional questions is simply to have a full picture of the situation and circumstances leading to the consent issue.
We will ask if there were any witnesses to the issue, and will request to speak with them privately as well. Additionally, we will speak directly with other individual involved in the consent issue. Please note, that we will ensure your privacy is held in high regard when we are questioning any other individuals.
Once we have gathered information from all parties involved, we will compare it against any previously obtained information. We make every effort to be aware of individuals who may be problematic, but have not specifically broken any rules or been involved in any consent related issues.
The outcome of the investigation will depend on a number of factors, including but not limited to:
Note - We do NOT alter our approach based on:
After reviewing all of the information presented to us, the Adventures in Sexuality leaders will reach a decision, with input offered by the consent representative. Once a decision has been reached, we will speak with the individual that has reported the issue to ensure they are satisfied with the result of our investigation. Should further assistance be necessary, we will assist the reporting individual in working with local law enforcement and local victim advocacy services.
Reporting an Issue That Did Not Occur at an Adventures in Sexuality Run Event & The Investigation Process
It is typically Adventures in Sexuality's policy to only police the spaces that we have full control over. That being said, we realize that situations happen outside of our control that may require our attention to keep our spaces as safe as we can.
There may be consent related situations that happen in private or at other organizations that we may not be able to directly influence or control. Despite this, we may still need to be aware of these situations so we can stay informed on potential threats to our spaces.
Unfortunately, there are some individuals that commit serial infractions, and jump from community to community once they are discovered. It is our greatest desire to prevent individuals such as this from entering our spaces and putting our attendees and members at risk.
When bringing these situations to our attention, we ask for the following information:
The outcome of our investigation will heavily weigh up on the direct threat the individual poses to our spaces, the severity of the consent issue, and if this is habitual behavior.
Reporting Outside Issues with a Presenter
We believe that those who are in voluntary authoritative positions are to be held to a higher standard. As such, we will only select presenters that share our values related to consent, negotiation, privacy, and personal autonomy.
We make every effort to be aware of potential issues surrounding presenters and any community related issues. Adventures in Sexuality works closely with community leaders and event organizers in other parts of the country, and often requests information from these individuals about any issue we should be aware of regarding presenters. That being said, there are occasions where issues are not brought to our attention.
If you have any information regarding a scheduled presenter's involvement in a consent issue, we ask that you contact us immediately. When contacting us, please be prepared with the following information:
Reporting Issues Involving Adventures in Sexuality Staff
We can proudly say every member of our staff shares our core values of consent, respect, safety, and privacy. Additionally, we believe our staff has a duty to provide the best possible example of acceptable behavior when engaging in BDSM. We recognize that other organizations throughout the national kink community have experienced issues with their staff or leadership taking advantage of their positions to cover up non-consensual activity. While this has not been an issue for our organization, we have created this section to assure our attendees and members that no one, not even people on our team, is exempt from the consequences of non-consensual behavior.
It is no secret that the Adventures in Sexuality staff are a family. In the AIS family, we believe it is imperative to hold one another accountable for unacceptable actions and behavior. We will swiftly investigate and handle any consent related issue in which our staff is involved.
If you experience a consent issue with any of our staff, please directly report these issues to the organization's leadership (Barak & Sheba). We ask that you do not report these issues to any other staff member so that we may quickly investigate the issue while maintaining your privacy.
Actions Taken at Conclusion of an Investigation
Aside from keeping our spaces safe, the primary goal of AIS is to provide fun and educational experiences for our attendees and members. As such, there are multiple actions we may take after an investigation. Those actions include, but are not limited to: Mediation, Re-Education, Sanction, and Removal.
We stress that AIS is not law enforcement. While we are a private organization and are able to restrict individuals that seek access to our events, we are limited to what we can do within the legal and justice systems. If you chose to pursue legal action or report the incident to law enforcement, we will continue to support you and assist in whatever manner we are able to.
At the conclusion of our investigation, we will determine the appropriate course of action for the situation at hand. Below, we have included a short summary of the possible actions that we will take.Mediation - Consent incidents can include a wide range of actions. While we often think of major violations when we hear the term, consent incidents may also include less severe conflicts, actions or miscommunications. In these circumstances, if both parties are interested, we can assist with (or recommend a neutral third party for) mediation between the different parties. We believe that in some cases, supporting and fostering communication between the two (or more) parties in a neutral environment can be a worthwhile course of action.
Please note, these are the most common actions AIS will take in situation involving consent incidents. The actions taken will be based on each situation, and more than one action may be taken. Should very unique or unusual situations arise, AIS may take actions outside of what is listed here.Privacy Disclosure
AIS will not share your personal information with anyone outside of the organization without your expressed permission. This includes posting specific information regarding your issue online. Depending on the incident in question, AIS may share details with our lawyer. Should you chose to escalate your report to law enforcement, health care professionals, or advocacy groups, AIS will continue to support you and will assist them with their investigation.
In an effort to assist multiple communities, general information may be shared with other leaders and promoters of other organizations. We would like to stress that your personal information will not be shared in these instances. Instead, we may share pertinent information regarding facts discovered relating to the perpetrator. While we may include an overview of what occurred, we will never share specific or identifying information, and the focus will be on the perpetrator's actions. Your privacy and security are of utmost importance to us.