The Hanky Code

History The Hanky code was originally developed by gay men as a method of communicating with potential partners in noisy bars. Today, it has been adopted by people of all orientations who are into some form of kink, fetish or BDSM. The use of the Hanky code, also called flagging, does not necessarily imply that a person is looking for a partner, nor that a person is gay. It is simply a symbol of pride in one's self, and is a neat way to get a fellow perv to say, "Hi!".

Important note - the flagging or wearing of a specific Hanky does not imply consent. It does, however, indicate interest and can be a great way to begin a dialog.

How to Use the Code Fold the Hanky of your choice into a neat rectangle, and tuck it in one of the rear pockets of your pants, leaving between half an inch and a full inch showing. If the Hanky is just crammed into your pocket or worn some other way, most pervy folks will assume that you don't intend it to mean anything.

Common Hanky Flags
Worn on RightHanky ColorWorn on Left
Bondage TopGreyBondage Bottom
S/M Top (sometimes heavy)BlackS/M Bottom (sometimes heavy)
Fisting TopRedWants to be Fisted
Golden Shower TopYellowGolden Shower Bottom
Wants Oral SexLight BlueWants to give oral sex or expert at oral

Less Common Hanky Flags
Worn on RightHanky ColorWorn on Left
Anal Sex TopDark BlueAnal Sex Bottom
Piercing TopPurplePiercing Bottom
Spanking (OTK) TopFuchsia (neon pink)Spanking (OTK) Bottom
CBT TopTeal BlueCBT Bottom
Wants Nipple PlayDark PinkGives Nipple play
Dildo Fetish TopLight PinkDildo Fetish Bottom
Armpit Fetish TopMagentaArmpit Fetish bottom
Drag QueenLavenderDrag Queen Lover
Well-Endowed Male (8 inches+)MustardWants Well-endowed male (8 inches+)
Two (or more) looking for oneGoldOne looking for Two (or more)
Scat TopBrownScat Bottom
BBW/BHMApricotChubby Chaser

Uncommon Hanky Flags
Worn on RightHanky ColorWorn on Left
Toe Fetish TopCoralToe Fetish Bottom
Cowboy Fetish TopRustCowboy Fetish Bottom
Father Fetish TopHunter GreenFather Fetish Bottom
Military Fetish TopOlive DrabMilitary Fetish Bottom
Food fetish/feeder TopLime GreenFood Fetish/Feedee Bottom
Anal Worship TopBeigeAnal Worship Bottom
Lactation Fetish TopHolstein (cow print)Lactation fetish bottom
Safe sex TopBlack/white checkeredSafe Sex Bottom
Shaving fetish TopRed/white stripeShaving Fetish Bottom
Teacher/Student Fetish TopBrown CorduroyTeacher/Student Bottom
Muscle Fetish TopGold LameMuscle Fetish Bottom
Video Fetish TopBlack VelvetVideo Fetish bottom
VoyeurWhite VelvetExhibitionist
Tattoo Fetish TopLeopard printTattoo fetish Bottom
Cuddling Fetish TopTeddy bear PrintCuddling fetish bottom
Outdoor fetish TopMosquito NettingOutdoor Fetish bottom
Bathhouse Fetish TopTerry ClothBathhouse Fetish Bottom
Scent Fetish TopKleenexScent Fetish Bottom
Open minded/anything goes TopOrangeOpen minded/anything goes bottom

This is a compilation from a comparison of various sites who host their own Hanky codes and represents the most constant showings of different colors and designs. For example, in some other codes, Mustard represents a Food Fetish rather than what's listed above, but it wasn't the most commonly found. Also, the above-listed are oriented specifically to play and kink, not necessarily to sexual interaction.

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